Today, the world is full of so many unhappy, egocentric and self-centered people. Everybody is concerned about how they can win at the expense of the failure of others. We now live in a generation where love has been reduced to just a four letter word and I strongly believe that this kind of lifestyle is what is responsible for the feeling of emptiness that most people experience. Although, they become successful acquiring massive wealth yet they still feel unfulfilled. A great motivational speaker once said “The best life lived is a life lived for others.”
If you want to live a happy and joyful life then you must realize that there are certain habits you must develop and constantly practice. Below, I present to you Six powerful habits that will ensure you live a happy and fulfilled life.
In life, people will only remember you for the donations you make and not necessarily the duration you live. The world celebrates givers and not takers. There is a popular saying that, “what goes around, comes around.” So many people find it difficult to give and would rather expect to receive from people. I have found out that people who seldom give are usually end up living an unhappy life. There’s a positive feeling you have about yourself when you give out something to someone, no matter how small.
- Celebrating people
People who are insecure find it hard to celebrate other people. If you want to have peace of mind then you must learn that life is not a competition and just because you put out somebody else’s candle light it doesn’t mean that yours will shine brighter. The sky is wide enough for two eagles to comfortably soar. The easiest way to rise is to learn to respect and celebrate people. If you see somebody who has a quality that you like, learn to honor that person. As Joshua S. Nimmak would often say “You will never have what you despise in others.”
- Being polite and grateful
Thank you, I’m sorry and please, are three golden words/phrases that most people rarely use. It is very difficult to find people who are polite and grateful in this present age. You must realize that the key to receiving more from God and man is to always be thankful. Anytime you refuse to show people that you are grateful, you automatically shut the door to receive more. As simple as the phrase “thank you” is, it is a powerful key to gaining access into a life of divine favor from God and man.
The term “humility” comes from the Latin word humilitas, which may be translated as “grounded”, or “from the earth”. It is a quality of having a modest or low-view of one’s importance. It is a perpetual lack of pride or assertiveness mainly due to high level of success or achievements. Humble people have come to the realization that they are only stewards of what they have. They understand that life is vanity and tend to treat everyone with love, honor and respect.
- Listening to people
In one of my articles “The power of listening,” I shared how people are taught to read, write and speak from the day they’re born but nobody ever teaches them how to listen. That is why everybody wants to be heard but nobody wants to listen. It is impossible to influence people if you do not first allow them to influence you. Until people realize that you are willing to listen to and understand them they will refuse to listen and understand you. When you listen to people, it shows that you honor, respect and value their opinion even if you do not necessarily agree with them.
- Forgiving others
Finally, one of the primary reasons why so many people live bitter and angry lives is because they find it difficult to forgive people who have done wrong to them. It is like being in a cage that you alone have the key to. Cultivating the habit of forgiveness is so important that it alone has the ability to transform your life. Refusing to forgive people is like giving them free packing space in your mind.
It is said that anything you can consistently practice for eighteen days will become a habit. Here is a little activity for you. Choose at least two of the habits I listed above and make a commitment to consciously practice them for eighteen days until it becomes something you consistently enjoy doing. Remember, knowledge only becomes power when it is applied consistently.
Emmanuel A. Ahmadu.
A motivational teacher, peak performance specialist and success coach.
CEO, Emmanuel Ahmadu International, a company specializing in training and development of individuals and corporate organizations for peak performance and maximum productivity.